Sometimes, when you expect much from people, you get disappointed because they may not have prioritized you like you did to them.
I have had quiet a number of guys coming around to capture my heart and make me theirs, but I realized that the zeal they come in to woo you with isn’t the same zeal that sustains the relationship…and before you know it, your dreams of having a beautiful relationship is shattered.
I met Kwame in November, 2017 and it was love at first sight. We kept on staring at each other till he approached me and said “Do you mind if I sit next to you so we talk for a while?”
That’s how our relationship started. From exchange of numbers to putting a promise ring on my finger on the day of our knocking, 6 months later.
He was a wonderful person from the beginning. We had lots of fun as young couples and at some point his friends thought he gave me too much attention.
Little did I know I was sharing that “too much” attention with another girl, who he was apparently cheating on her with me.
Funny right?! Yes, he was cheating on the girl with me, but I was the one who his parents knew and the one who also wore his promise ring 6 months after we met.
The thing is, he told me he had issues with the girl and so they are no longer together. I believed him, well maybe because of love. I sat there sometimes watching his phone ring with her name showing on the screen. How did I know? I was friends with him on facebook till he said I saw too much, which “wasn’t good” for me. That “too much” I saw were pictures of he and the said lady going on trips, taking pictures and captioning it with names I thought I should have been hearing alone. Late night calls from the lady and the term he used when going out with his friends “I don’t want my friends seeing you as the party type, since I want to marry you”, while he moved around with the girl in nightclubs and parties.
I was blocked on facebook and their love thrived. All these went on while I had his ring on my finger. I played the “fool” so I could sustain my relationship, a relationship I had lost right from the time I accepted to be his girlfriend.
You know what they say about parents not having a say when a child is simply no longer interested in something. That’s what happened…we had meetings and tried to settle all the cheating issues and pains he put me through.
He kept going back and forth and trying so hard to get a flaw to floor me in front of his parents so the engagement could be broken off. Finally, in February, 2018 the drinks were returned and I became free from the pains.
My story started on a sad note, but it wouldn’t end that way.
After 2 years of being single and tying to put myself on the right track, I met one fine gentleman I always thank God for bringing my way.
In May, 2020, when everyone around the world was concerned about COVID-19 and how we are trying to stay safe, I met my guardian angel, a man I still sit, pinch myself and ask if I am dreaming.
He’s been an amazing gentleman and I am beginning to understand why it probably ended the way it did in my previous relationship.
I would save all the details for another day, when I don’t have to mix my sadness and happiness in one story, but for now I’m enjoying a wonderful man and a love I never knew I would find.
I came to realize that everything happens for a reason and my story is my own testimony.
We are 6 months now…and still counting to eternity.