Dwella Writes: Unrequited love – The Pains And Trauma Of Dating Yourself And A Conscious Way To Overcome Such A Porous Love Story

Unrequited love is a type or kind of love which cannot be reciprocated. This type of love is one sided, meaning only one member in the relationship has absolute interest in the union and wished it would move further whilst the other member has his/her interest else where. When you are caught in this situation or web, some thoughts come into your mind. Some of these thoughts are:

1. I wish I had never met him/her in the first place.
2. I wish I hadn’t fallen in love with him/her.
3. I want to hate him/her.
4. What did I do wrong to deserve this. And a whole lot.

It is natural to ask these questions. You are not wrong to feel depressed, frustrated and dejected. But what you have to do is to make sure the situation does not affect your future. So you need to work to improve your situation and let bygones be bygones. That is actually where the power lies because it is very difficult to move on when situation like this strike you down. But do not worry , here are some tips to help you in your emotional crisis or trauma.

First and foremost,sit at a quiet place and cry your heart out. It is better to cry than to get angry. So if you feel like crying, cry because it is the only way to make you feel better and at ease. So instead of getting angry and blaming yourself for loving him/her, sit quietly and cry the hell out of yourself and the tears you are bringing out will purify your heart and help you regain your strength to move forward.

Secondly, talk to trusted friends about your situation. One secret to release stress in situations like this is talking it out with people you trust and trust me you would feel at ease. Also take into consideration their advise. This is one way to overcome such situations.

Moreover, hang out with friends. This would not give you a chance to think about him/her. You can either go for shopping with them, watch movies or if possible go out for lunch. This helps you to be able to put the thoughts of him/her at bay for sometime and give you a sound mind to think of what your next line of action will be.

Furthermore, maybe you are not able to go out with friends. Don’t worry at all just find a book, magazine or anything to read. I know this is very difficult but if you are able to do it, it would spare you sometime. So the time you would spend to think about him/her, use that time to read and this would help you a lot to forget about your betrayal, stress , frustration , depression and dejection. So when you find yourself in this situation please just find something and read.

In a nutshell, you have to realise the person you are crying or shedding tears for is not worthy of it. The tears that you are wasting would not bring the person back into your life. Bare in mind there is no use crying over spilt milk. You can use the time you will use for crying to write journals,stories and something else. If possible give yourself the chance to love again but be careful who you go for so it does not end in tears. Never beg anyone to love you once the person says no just stop pushing. No matter how much you love that person.

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