Most often, people complain about the complexity of ladies’ attitude in a relationship. Well, ladies may be complex and highly unpredictable sometimes. But you see those human creatures God created first, they are the most complex and the hard to understand party in most romantic relationships.
You can easily identify what a lady likes and dislikes in a relationship. You can easily detect when she’s angry or sad and the reason behind it. You can easily come up with something to cheer her up when she’s in that bad mood.
Men initially appear so simple like the topic Linear Inequalities in SHS Mathematics, wait till you get deep in a relationship with them, they’re are as complex as Quantum Physics in Physics.
Whenever men with similar interests meet, they discuss ladies. Ladies equally discuss men. Out of one of such ladies’ discussions came up the issue of men’s complexity in relationships. This is the story of Neena and Caleb.
Neena and Caleb have been in a relationship for close to three years. Every other thing necessary for a healthy relationship is present. Love, care, support, intimacy, name the rest. One thing Neena is however battling in her relationship is when to give Caleb space or attention.
Neena complains that whenever she visits Caleb for three consecutive days, Caleb starts to complain that Neena is being overprotective and all over him. Neena accepts the complain and decides to stay away from him for a while. After several chats on WhatsApp and phone calls, Caleb complains again, “So now if I don’t ask you to visit me, you won’t abi? I guess you have other important people to visit.” Aah, but he’s the same guy that complained that Neena was over visiting. Well, I guess these two should design a visiting timetable that will favor both of them.
Neena again complains that whenever she calls and texts Caleb a couple of times in a day to check on him, she sometimes gets blue ticks as some of her calls are ignored. Her darling boy Caleb will come up with funny excuses as ” I have been busy,” “your last message didn’t require a response,” “you don’t have to worry about me that much, I can take care of myself.” Neena decides to reduce the number of times she calls and texts and there comes Caleb again, “You have a lot of guys to flirt with that you forget I still use WhatsApp.” Aah, we’re indeed a confused generation. Everyone seems confused about what they want.
Neena says the worst moment is when Caleb is angry. Neena tries to show concern by asking him why he’s angry and Caleb acts like an angry lion ready to devour its prey. “Must you know everything, don’t you have personal issues. I need space to think.” The next time Caleb gets angry, Neena learns to mind her own business and allow Caleb deal with his personal issues. At least, she wouldn’t worsen his anger by showing concern. What Neena didn’t know is that her man needs attention and not space this time but Neena didn’t give that. This hit Caleb and he texted Neena ” It is clear I no longer matter to you. You used to show care whenever I’m moody. Now you don’t even care whether I’m happy or not…” Wait o, do men want ladies to ask them when to attention or face what Neena is experiencing in her relationship?
From the engagement of other ladies, Neena isn’t the only lady going through that in her relationship. Most ladies share the same worry, their men are hard to please. Apart from the issue of space and attention, ladies receive backlashes from their guys on their dressing. When they dress “sexy” their guys complain they want to attract other guys. Ladies dress “shabby and anyhow” and then they “don’t know how to dress.”
It not strange that most breakups come from the ladies in the relationship. It is as a result of some of these relationship drama. Imagine getting this drama everyday in your relationship. How long can you cope? Men need to make known what they really want from ladies and when they need that so that ladies can offer just that. Neena on behalf of ladies in her predicament is throwing this question out to men, What do you want in a relationship, Space or Attention?