Everyone craves that perfect relationship. The kind of relationship that consists of breakfast in bed every morning, no arguments, water gun fights, daily walks on the beach, watching the sunrise and sunset together, pillow fights, taking turns in doing the cooking and the laundry, a great sex life and just totally being ‘relationship goals’. Everyone at one point in their life wants this kind of relationship and failed to think of how to get it.
Romance novels and movies have set the standard of a relationship so high that young people are never content with what they have. Just like Oliver Twist, they always seem to just want more. Young couples want to be referred to as society’s power couple, as ‘relationship goals’. What they fail to acknowledge is that these romance novels and movies are mostly works of fiction. Your boyfriend cannot always take you to dinner dates every Saturday night when he can make a change and include Wednesday nights. Friday nights will not always be movie night when you can make them party nights too. Your boyfriend will not always show up on your doorstep every Valentine morning with lilacs and roses. It is very possible that one of you may forget one anniversary and it is totally normal. Your girlfriend may forget to text you good night just one night and that is okay. It does not have to be a bed of roses all the time because even roses have their own thorns.
Young men and women waste so much time focusing on social media relationship tags that they fail to appreciate their own relationships. They chose to assess their relationships and partners and compare them to others. Young couples fail to realize they can create their own kind of perfect. They fail to recognize that their princes and princesses are right beside them. They fail to see that they can create their own lovers’ playlists, engage in pillow fights, take turns in doing the cooking and laundry, that they can bond over washing dishes, have daily strolls on the beach and watch the sunset together and play silly board games together.
Your relationship does not have to be society’s definition of perfect but your own kind of perfect. You can also find your happily ever after in your own love story. Do not fret over ‘relationship goals’ tags when you go with ‘just us’. What even are the essence of these tags? Who needs titles and tags when you are living your own fairytale, anyway.