Sometimes a man’s purpose in a woman’s life is to help her become a better woman for another man. That sounds really absurd but that was the intention Clem and I had. Clem was in my life to help me unlove someone. I met Clem at a friend’s funeral after a long while. For the fact that he knows me very well, he quickly detected I wasn’t the gay girl he knows. Yes it was a gloomy environment but my friends were having fun after the burial but coiled myself in a chair at a lonely corner. Clem approached me and requested to keep me company. He asked about his ‘rival’ as he calls my boyfriend. I wished we never visited that topic, but since Clem isn’t a stranger to me, I told him the situation my boyfriend and I were in. Obviously, Clem knew that was why I was self isolating from the rest of the crowd. And he is right, I needed space for myself since everyone else was like an enemy to me. I was hurting from my recent breakup with my boyfriend.
I have always known that Clem loves me and places my happiness above his. But I thought that period of his undying love for me has past. Clearly, I was wrong. Clem offered to stay by me and help me heal from my heartbreak. Initially, I thought he was trying to make fun of me. But then, the guy was serious about it. That sounded soothing to me, at least I’ll have someone to pour out my hurt to. I was so selfish that I didn’t even care about what his girlfriend would feel. How could Clem be so forgiving and caring after all I put in him through.
Yes, Clem suffered a heartbreak from me. I betrayed his love. He’s my first love and everything went so well until I went to the university. I remember very well how he bid me farewell with a big parcel. GTP cloths, provisions and an envelope with a good amount of money. I threw all our hopes and dreams into the air when I met my ‘university guy.’
He tried to gain my love back but I was so into my new ‘catch.’ Yet, this same person wants me to use him to unlove the one I dumped him for. Or he wants an opportunity to take revenge. This and many more thoughts were running through my mind as I tossed on my bed that night.
The subsequent days were like a couple’s honeymoon period. He calls me almost every hour. He surprises me with gifts, dates and all the good things you can think about. I enjoyed all the benefits of a real relationship that I soon forgot about my boyfriend now my Ex and the hurt from the heartbreak. I even wondered if Clem’s girlfriend was getting his attention again because I virtually stole everything from her.
Days passed and weeks turned to months, the bond was getting so strong. I felt we were swerving from the main purpose from which we came back together. I could see love in his eyes whenever I steal a glance at him. Clem was still in love with me. I was equally falling for him again but I tried to hide it. It got to a time that I could no more hold my emotions for him but I couldn’t tell him either. I started praying that Clem will soon propose to me again. But then will he want to give his heart and trust to me again? Moreover, he is now in a relationship and everything seems to be working out well.
I started avoiding him. I knew I could not get his trust again. Clem notice the strange attitude I was exhibiting and confronted me. I did not lie, I told him the truth. I had fallen for him. Fortunately, he also confessed he never stopped loving me in spite of the pain I put him through. This came like a proposal and though it had been my prayer, I was reluctant to accept straightaway. But who doesn’t want good things, I accepted after some few days.
And my Ex turned out to be rebound. My ‘Rebound’ became my true love. Everyone else was wrong, because my rebound and I found love once again in a hopeless situation. Maybe my rebound is the love of my life. And if this experience has taught me anything, it is this: It doesn’t matter where your story starts, all that matters is how you choose to end it. Getting a rebound to overcome a heartbreak may not be all juicy, but sometimes that is where you find true love.