When you love someone, you love the whole person, just as they are, and not as you would like them to be. This description of love by Anna Karenna may stand for those who love with only their hearts. Those who love with their hearts and minds may hold a contrary view of love. Yes, true love is unconditional, but true love is not crazy one-sided love. Set limits on what you tolerate from your partner because you are teaching them how to treat you if you welcome their every attitude and flaws.
One of the worst mistake you can make in your love life is wasting years of your life waiting, dreaming and hoping for your partner to grow up to love you. Love grows but it needs constant nurturing to grow. We don’t bury seeds and expect them to terminate without sunlight nor moisture. Don’t hope that your partner will change overnight to love you when they’re not doing anything towards that. But come to think of it, if there was no mutual love, what then motivated you two to come together? If there was mutual love, where has it suddenly gone? And still you are waiting for this same person to give you love and you have given?
Why do we even love or hope to be loved? It is because we all yearn for that need of belonging. But mind you, it’s better to be alone than belong to that which only gives pains, hurt and regrets. Love in itself is an unfair feeling. But loving the wrong person is far worse.
This is why knowing the person who are falling in love with is a step towards a successful relationship. Falling in love with someone whose lifestyle hurts you is totally out of the ideal. Don’t ever hope that this person will change with time. It’s takes a good quality of time, endurance, pain, tears and heartbreaks to watch your partner change. Are you ready for such drama?
Sometimes we have to say goodbye to the ones who mean the most to us. Because sometimes, they are the ones who are slowly killing us inside. One person does not stay in love. It takes two to fall in love and nurture it grow. If your love is one-sided, stop hoping that it will miraculously become mutual overnight. It doesn’t work that way. If your partner does not love you today, tomorrow is not going to be different. Even if it does, know that there might be a hidden motive.
Wise up, walking away from a one-sided relationship is not wickedness nor heartlessness. Always be motivated by this “A good woman or man will stay by your side no matter how much you lie, cheat, or steal. That is your father or mother, not me.” So don’t waste your time expecting a hen to lay cubs. Move on, put your eyes on the ground. There are a lot out there who understands what it means to be loved back and will give love just as they are given love.